How to Knit Yourself a Husband in Five Easy Steps
When I came home I knew I was going to be ok. And as a sick person who needs a pill everyday, or an alcoholic who needs daily meetings, I need to walk out of this apartment every single day and put myself in situations that are unfamiliar, unknown. Since we moved into our new apartment a week ago I have felt like I was on fire, burning with enthusiasm and creative potential, ready to conquer anything. Perception of the self has so much to do with what you WANT to be, rather than who you think you are.
One week ago my mindset was hopeless, the broken, old, homeless man who knit while on his knees praying to God that something wonderful would happen. And this week? Since the move? My mindset is clenched around upwardly mobile, being ever so ambitious, being not becoming , but already being a respected writer and potential commercial success. And that is precisely what we did last night. We met Mary Kay at the door, invited him to take off his shoes, ordered a pizza, drank a few beers, sat on the floor and laughed. We had a great time. Best home warming ever.
Just us, with a friend…. Maybe a little vanity? That frail little old man you saw was a whisper of himself. He was growing frighteningly thin. His face was dropping with depression. The aura around him was very dark and despair was tugging at him. No, I want to wait until I feel I am confident enough when I look in the mirror.
I want to look handsome for you! You can already see how different I look. The poisons in my body are draining out with every long walk I take. There is a delightful smile creasing my grin upward. There is a sense of delight in my daily experiences. You can already see the difference in my verbiage, my diction, my conveyance. I just want to look good for you. I want you to see the difference. I want you to hear the difference when I do a video, I want you to read the change in me when I joyfully punch these keys.
Imagine me, promptly stomping into our new apartment soaking wet, clothes dripping with sweat. Nude, I move towards the shower, the cool water cleansing me, invigorating me. Good job! Only 5. Already I see the power of change. The REAL power in it. As many of you that have followed this blog know, I famously left our old apartment for only 20 minutes a day from to I dashed to Publix to grab our food, then ran back home again. But, the minute we moved into this new apartment all of that changed. Since the day we moved in I have taken the random walk to wherever.
I just go walking. Me, out of the house for an hour, because I wanted to explore, wanted to see. Imagine that a week ago…. I started to feel that I had really strangled the monster that had me locked in a dark cycle of tragic routine for so many years. They say daylight is the best disinfectant…. Beset with so many curses in our recent years, we felt we could never attain anything better than we had. My agoraphobia made a point of that. Then I got sicker and sicker…. Sicker and sicker.
The mold in that old home was killing us slowly. Feel like a sandwich? We are all SO happy here. Welcome to our home. Even a shot of Phillip playing one of his dang video games. And you know, every home has that one beam, column, or corner that you can sense is the real heart of the home, the piece of the structure that keeps the roof from crashing in. Sometimes it is quite visible, sometime you just have to sense it out. I found ours. This corner of a wall leading to the bathroom, right in the middle of the apartment.
I figured I best get the word out before everyone worries. We are fine….. Well, it has significance with Phillip and I, a shared secret and a way to give homage to someone we find dear to us. However, in the last two weeks it has just gotten harder and harder to really get a grip on optimism. I know! You can see the end of the darkness! The light is right around the corner!
We have a place to go! I mean, this darkness just pummels you. Like being on an airplane that has a bad movie, crap food, screaming people, scary weather and death convincing turbulence, there is nothing you can do but sit and wait for the plane to land. Just sit back, try and get some rest and just wait for it all to be over. In this last week it got really bad. So, Phillip and I have been sitting in front of box fans while under a ceiling fan in our underwear.
Then our washing machine died. But, we were hoping to sell our set for extra money. All those little things that you need when you move into a new place. The dryer works fine. If they want the washer and can find someone to fix it, they can have that, too. The rest of the apartment is just filled with packed boxes stacked all over the place ready to go. We look like an episode of hoarders. As a matter off act, with us in the bedroom and all the things we use on a daily basis piled on our nightstands, while the apartment continues to decay around us, we look more like Grey Gardens.
I just sit in bed all day with the fans, trying to stay cool, knitting away like some crazy person. Phillip has a theory. You know, the woman who lived here before us was a MEAN one legged woman in a wheel chair. She ultimately grew sick and was sent to hospice where she died. Oh, but she had lived here for YEARS, the doors are scratched in clean lines along the bottom from her wheelchair.
She may have died in hospice, but her soul came back to her home, not enough to haunt, just enough to have a presence that influences with her bitterness. And the closer we get to moving day, the less this apartment wants to make it easy for us. This time? After all, we are moving into apartment 13! Which tells me that they are missing the point behind this craft. And that is why I deleted my Ravelry account. Like this: Like Loading Ah, but our intuition never fails us, does it? My first teddy bear was actually supposed to be a sock monkey.
And oh, the beautiful things that happened because of his face, because of his story. But, I caught myself. I knew what was happening. Just so I can finally meet you, hug you, and finally thank you in person. So, how do you celebrate? You have a home warming! Now, I breathe. I breathe better than I have in so long. Virtually all of the millionaires I know have families some were married without children, but most had children. One day man one day.
I have finally gotten my finances to a point where I can see how this will be possible just have to get it done now. Finding a steady financial plan that you can stick with is key. Benjamin, I plan on using my blog to help keep me on track as well. I read that article, too. I think I can do better with my finances and build a more secure future. The process does seem easy, if we manage to master the all mighty earn more than we spend. Still how we handle the bumps along the way will make a big difference.
I have no doubt that you and family will end up millionaires. And you can tell your wife I said that. You can become rich as long as you know your path were your going and know what your doing. Make your own websites and when it has a value sell it off, but to whome? Ex,Look at tom a Young adult who is the maker of myspace. Your advice is golden, but what captures my curiosity is: are YOU a millionaire,Mr. Mark: No, I am not a millionaire at this point.
But one does not need to be an Olympic athlete to coach an Olympian. I think you missed the point: these words have helped me. I have no consumer debt, a reasonable mortgage payment with a lot of equity, a healthy retirement account based on my age and income, and strong professional prospects. I earn money, live within my means, save and invest that money, and repeat the process. I am well on my way to becoming a millionaire, and I wish you the same success. I have practiced the same debt elimination and savings techniques for years, and do so quite aggressively, though more conservatively than one of my best friends.
He owns two homes, bought a boat and is traveling and enjoying his life to the fullest. My goal is to follow in his footsteps. Set short term savings goals and work hard to reach them. Once you reach a short term savings goal, set your next savings goal and continue to work hard to reach it. Then repeat, repeat, etc. Good luck with your mission, my friend. God forbid.
That is when I will feel financially free. We do have disability income here in the US. I have a bit, but probably not enough. My wife and I plan on going over our insurance situation here in a couple weeks, so I will look into it then. For example, starting your business can certainly be the beginning of becoming a millionare. But, you really have to think bigger…like a plan to franchise the business, create a new market, etc. One of the best ways to becoming a millionaire is investing in real estate.
Though there is negativity around real estate and though it does take more time and effort to become rich.. Where do you think Donald Trump made his millions? How do you think he got started.. Unlike many other books out there that might be geared to people who already know something about real estate, this book is simple yet offers great suggestions on the keys to becoming successful. This is the year for me! Joshua: Real estate is definitely an avenue to becoming a millionaire. I only have a primary residence at the moment, but I think that may change later in life.
Good luck with your endeavors. According to what I read it is much easier than ever before to become a millionaire nowadays. And this is mostly attributed to the home values in the past years. Home equities and rising appreciation of real estate makes it possible to a lot of Americans to be considered millionaires.
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However, the past two years the real estate market has been hit hard, home values have depreciated back into the level. But the housing bubble and subsequent market crash erased a lot of those millionaires. There are more ways to get there though — which is what I am working on. Slow and steady. I think that the ultimate step in becoming a millionaire is to be frugal, save more than what you spend, and learn the fundamentals of investing like stocks, real estate, bonds, etc.
Set goals and be focused on those goals. Surely, it will be reached soon. You are right.. Once you reach a critical mass, the last… say… third or fourth of the journey will be relatively easy. Or how soon can you start bringing in income from a second investment property? No, friends, a million is not far off at all…. The steps above might not make us all millionaires, but surely it is the right path to more money. I think that the whole idea is just plain old belief, once you have that, thinks should fall in place.
Belief my problem. I have to get it right the first time! I would suggest NOT including any property or illiquid assets not readily sellable into your Millionaire calculation. I want to be doing so much more but kind of stuck not knowing what to do next. Does anyone have any advice?
I have a finnacial advisor also and he just tells me to keep investing! I need more direction then that! Please help?? Thanks guys. There are many other great ways to get ahead, so I recommend searching for the way s that work for you. Along the way you will want to pay down debt, invest, look for ways to earn more money, look for ways to save money, and balance that with the rest of life. I know those are broad strokes, but each situation is different, and that is the best I can do without knowing more about your situation.
Two thoughts come to mind. First, at 27 you have a whole life in front of you, so whatever you do will be right if it is directed correctly.
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Second, pick a goal and work towards it e. Always remember, as you succeed in any one of these, then you can broaden out into other investments opportunities e. The choice and timing are yours to call. Third save while planning. Fourth invest wisely. If you study, your brain has a knowledge.
Put up a business. Yep, you hit the nail on the head. Because of the real estate bubble, the current definition of a millionaire is one who possesses a million dollars in net worth excluding the value of their home. Earning more increases your income i. I think to become a millioner is a destiny. Without blessings from God is nothing. Even if you work hard, even you earned more money if its not your destiny you will not be a millioner.
God will give ways that your earned money will be spent. For you to succeed in anything, you need a clear plan on how you are going to achieve that. The plan will enable you to benchmark your progress and hence spur you on torwards your mission. I do have my own plan of attaining financial freedom and things look quite good. Remember, if you fail to plan, you are actually planning to fail. But debt free with K in the bank for emergencies sounds like a nice place to be. I became a millionaire by investing in real estate. It can definitely be done in almost any market. The question is are you willing to spend the time to learn what you need to know?
Are you willing to make whatever personal financial sacrifice is needed to get things going? The answer to these two questions for most want-to-be investors is no. In I was broke,no money in the bank but was the owner of my own home of about USD 50, Which really was a good start of course I was at home on a hot summers day here in Brazil thinking about which direction life would take me next, when the telephone rang.
I received a call from a company in March of here in Brazil from one of the owners of the company that wanted to import from China but could not speak English. I started to help him import Chemicals for his company which when I started to work for him was worth USD2 million.
Today 7 years later I am worth with savings and assets around USD, and pushing towards my first Million. Try to be a good and honest person…. Believe in yourself …..
Keep your family close they can help you know and its good for you too!! Money comes and goes…. Sleep well and look after your body…. Try and have some fun along the way….. Go with your gut instincts. Success will only come from hard work. You deserve. Maybe just maybe just now and again you should thank god for what he has allowed you to achieve. Joe, Congratulations on your success and helping the company reach new levels of success. And thanks for sharing your tips — they are excellent!
This is exactly the same topics I talk about in my website. Becoming a millionaire is such a popular topic. However, sometimes we overlook living a fulfilled life and just want that label, millionaire. We must endeavor to live a productive life by seeking to better those around us. If you have the vision, create a product, pump in passion and deliver to make things better for people. That is one sure way of becoming a millionaire. I invest monthly in a range of products, again, all with the goal of cost averaging the market to my benefit over time.
My invested dollar amount exceeds my current total, as it did even at the recent market highs in The first decade of wage earning is the most important in terms of compounding interest, and we have just experienced a completely lost decade. The hopes for recovery to make up for that lost decade 14 yrs in my case do not appear reasonable.
Everyone wants to be a millionaire but only a few take the initiative to actually start on the path to getting there. The others are either lazy or lack the education to do so. I think this pretty much hits the nail on the head. Write everything down that you can afford to spend, and then work out how much you have left to spend on what you want. I truly believe that if you want to attain the status of being a millionaire, one must make the necessary adjustments in life.
The status of being a millionaire entails a lot of sacrifices but what is more realistic is that it is achievable and doable. More than anything else, be a millionaire for it takes to be one — frugal, investment conscious, earning more than what you spend, paying yourself first, diversifying your investments by not putting all your eggs in one basket alone, intuitive, resourcefull, sound knowledge in financial language and accounts, passionate, loves what you are doing, charitable, innovative, seizing initiatives in the market plays, delaying instant gratification and always never sacrificing the needs of your family in terms of financial needs and matters.
I have a question. I am 24 and I just started selling commercial insurance. My wife and I have about 70 k in student loans which we plan on paying back asap. I am going to have an additional 10k on top of my salary next year which I plan on saving until the end of the year and allocating it as I see fit. Now, I hate debt but I want to take full advantage of our young age and compounding interest. I feel like there is no right or wrong answer. Your thoughts?
Harris, I think it depends on several factors. First, I recommend having a well established emergency fund that will be enough to cover several months living expenses. This will help you cover any unexpected expenses and avoid taking out additional debt. For example, are you saving to buy a house, do you need to replace your car in the next two or three years, etc. Finally, consider the interest rates of your student loans and what you may be able to earn in an IRA and decide which option is best for your needs.
Investing for retirement now could be a huge benefit for you and your wife when you reach retirement age, but eliminating debt increases cash flow and gives you peace of mind. Both options are solid. Best of luck. Love the article Ryan. I love thinking about what my story is going to be. I always try to remind myself of why I want it, and that it has a time frame. I love exploring the mindset structure behind manifesting millions and always invite others to do it with me. My goal is to help inspire people to breakthrough to brilliant living — whatever that is to them by defining, refining, and acting on designing the ideal lifestyle.
The principles that I have followed out of grad school seems to have correspond to the article. I still worry about the same things as before, but at perhaps at a different level. I admit getting to the first million was relatively easy with luck and good planning, but I thought I would have been much better off by now.
It is also very tough to maintain with a bad economy. Everyone wants to be a millionaire but today nobody wants to work at it.
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Sound advice. You definitely have to earn more than you spend, and save it. This is the bare minimum first step required for sure. I see we have the same mindset. This was a good article, and should help a lot of people if they will just do it. I hope to follow some steps with improvement.. But i got a question for you…have u become a millionaire yet?? A little frugality and elbow grease goes a long ways. I feel like most self-made millionaires are the hardest workers in the world. They understand the value of their earned dollar and protect its value.
I am constantly trying to improve. You make good points in this post. Millionaires have a different mindset when it comes to money. Millionaires view money as a means to generate more income not as something to be spent on self-indulgent consumption. I never stop dreaming, but now am going to be 63 yrs. Am still working as a babysitter, I have 5 childrens, 4 of them are married, and I have 9 grandchildrens.
But, I never loss hope, that someday I can also reach the peak of success not only in my dreams but in the real world. And I know, only our creator will give me want I really want to be and maybe because of my faith to be one of those lucky people. I agree! This does not mean that we are obliged to help others. We can feel it to whom we will offer our help. I fear your wonderful advice comes too late for me. I am 58 years old and have no job skills. The world is a wonderful place for you young people who have jobs and a meaningful life, but for someone like me it is difficult to want to keep going.
I feel antiquated and out-of-date. I will never be a millionaire—not even close! What is even worse is that my two grown sons can only find part-time, minimum wage jobs and both of them went to college. Great story. Simple, consistent saving and smart spending. No derivatives or credit default swaps needed! You made tons of really good points, and yeah I guess for myself its just a overall view with all my expenditures and not just in a few areas but all of them…yikes I got a lotta work to do! Everybody wants to become a millionaire; but nobody wants to follow the success principles.
People who drives expensive cars and wear expensive suits are not millionaires, these people are usually in heavy debt. People who look rich may not actually be rich. They are just over-spenders. On the other hand millionaires in their early life do not buy expensive cars or expensive houses, they live frugally and try to save every cent they can and then they invest that money wisely. By submitting this comment I just want to thank you for all the good work you are doing on this site. I want to learn how to invest smart.
Use index trackers from Vanguard. Global equities and bonds. Buy the book Millionaire Teacher to guide you. After my wife and I turned 30 in July I have been thinking about updating our story. We continue to prosper at what we do and have been pretty frugal since when we first posted. I finally got a raise and a promotion , which is just the start of our good luck. About two years ago we purchased land back home in PA even though we still have time left in Boston.
We got an amazing deal on 2. We are working extra hard at paying down the land loan so that we will have enough equity to build a 1. So we are very lucky and well on our way! We our currently half way away to a million. Our plan is to become millionaires before we turn Can we do it? Thank u Ryan for your advice. I wish I can be a millionaire too. To be able to discipline yourself well, especially the way you handle your finances, and to be optimistic every now and then can really help you a lot in becoming a millionaire yourself.
And you also need to have a millionaire mindset as well. You need to become a millionaire person before having a million dollar. Would love to feature your success stories on our site.
Let us know if you do guest blogging. In short, there are many places to earn money — it really depends on your goals, interests, skills, talents, availability, and other factors. They can help you with the process of creating a resume and trying to find work. So what companies would be good to invest in or learn about? I live in alaska we dont have access to alot of things the states do.