Leave That Married Man - 10 Good Reasons Why You Should Leave Now!
Unless they will get divorce but even then, there can still be legal implications against you. In case you have no idea about legal implications of getting involved with a married person, let me tell you this, "the law will not protect you" under normal circumstances.
There is a law against concubinage or adultery and whichever is applicable to you can get you in prison together with your partner. So you really need to think really hard before you jump into this kind of relationship. Not only are you destroying a family but you are also destroying your own life in the process. There will be a lot of consequences for your actions; the kids of the married couple will be gravely affected by the break-up or by the scandal, the legal wife or husband will be devastated and the entire family will crumble.
Even if the issue involves the other spouse, the fingers will all be pointing at you. You will certainly look like the villain Being a lover means you are dispensable anytime. It will be easy to stop seeing you when they decide to stay faithful. In the end, they will always choose their legal spouse over you. As painful as it is, you just have to accept it. You should have told yourself that no matter how much love you invest in the illicit relationship, sooner or later, you will still go back to your empty bed Similarly, the person can easily replace you with another.
If the person gets tired of you and chooses to have another mistress, then he can easily replace you. There is nothing certain about illicit relationships. If he can cheat on his wife who he chose to spend his entire life with, what makes you think he will be faithful to you when you are just a mistress?
Even if the marriage will be over and even if he chooses you over his wife, there is no guarantee that he will remain faithful to you. He cheated once, he can do it again and you should not be surprised because you are somehow the reason of his unfaithfulness in the first place. He may treat you differently but it doesn't mean you will be special for him because there is nothing special when you are hidden in a relationship.
Now, this is going to be very complicated for the woman committing the adultery because if she gets pregnant with another man's child, there will be grave consequences not only for her but also to the entire family. Now, if the mistress becomes pregnant, the family of the man might not know anything about it but once the child is born, it is considered illegitimate. It cannot be registered easily under the name of the father if the father is married to someone else. Not only that, the entire illicit relationship will become more complicated once a child is involved.
In some cases, the kid will likely grow up not knowing who the real biological father is. Even if the child learns about the father, it is possible that the kid will grow to resent his father because of the situation they are in. Illicit relationships are always more painful that it is satisfying. It is difficult to maintain. There are no certainties. There are a lot of risks involved. The consequences are grave. And it destroys all the people involved. There are more disadvantages than benefits in an illicit relationship.
If you are not mentally and emotionally prepared, you cannot survive in a relationship like this. Most people who get involved in illicit relationships are broken inside and otherwise cold, distant and money-driven. Some of them don't care if they wreck a home. They will try to cling to the married person as long as they can get something from it. A morally upright person will never stay in an illicit relationship. A person who values family will not get involved in a married person no matter what.
The best reason of all? It is always better to love and be loved without fear and uncertainties. It is always satisfying to show your partner to your family and friends where he or she can feel accepted and loved. There is nothing better than planning your future together and ending up exchanging vows at the altar in front of all the people you both loved. Why risk everything in an illicit relationship when you can find a person not married yet who can love you the way you want to be loved? Why insist yourself in a married person's life when you can be someone else's priority? Why stick to being a mistress or a lover when you can find someone who will be willing to marry you?
I don't think it is common that mistresses have contact with the family of the man they are cheating with. Not a lot of mistresses actually dare to show their face to the wife, because that will always end up horribly for both of them. Maybe some mistresses do call and confront the wife if they feel like the man is no longer happy, and that the wife is the cause of his misery.
What if someone thinks I cheated on her but I didn't and now she can't trust me and also after 3 months she found a new guy? If you did not cheat on her, then you have to prove that it's true. If your ex really believed in you, she should have given you a chance to explain and prove that you were not cheating. At least try to explain your side to her and show her your sincerity. She may listen, if not, then let her go and move on. It can be really annoying for readers that is why I used "he" but it does not mean that I only refer to men male gender.
To comment on this article, you must sign in or sign up and post using a HubPages Network account. Truthfully, I believe in all these 10 reasons. Or they blame it on circumstances - unhappy marriage, children involved, money involved, reputation involved, health, whatever, cheating is cheating. Cause and effect. Believe in Karma people. If you do bad thing bad thing will happen to you one way or another. That's the thing, we always have reasons and excuses, bottom line it's greed, and self-center. Self-serving or Self-need. My sister stays in the marriage for many years they don't have sex together anymore but for the children's sake.
Husband involved with another woman for 10 years and for the sex. He always a cheater.
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Not all blame is on him, it's my sister's fault too she accepts it -. My other sister remains as a mistress for 7 years and got a illegitimate child and the guy still leave her and stays with his primary relationship with childless. Although, they went through court, but he never accepted his child. My sister still loved him till these days If he really loved her he would choose her and the child, but when they first got involved I advised her to stay away from him he will never leave his primary relationship.
True enough. But my sister is selfish and self-destructive she chose to stay believing someday he will leave his woman for her - and then having a child thinking he will leave her for her? She moved on having a couple more relationship after that. She's a mess. She got what she deserves because she just keep falling for the wrong guy or the right guy but she's crazy who would be able to stay with her.
I've never been married, I have a 17 years loyal, and happy relationship he has his own house and I have my own house. We don't have any children. My situation: a married man said he felt in love with me and I think I am in love with him.
There are no positive reasons for dating a married man.
At the work place. However, after 3 long years I've never slept with him but we kissed here and there about 3 times. I never ever or accept to be a mistress. I don't ever think I cheat, but I came to close to the line. Like I said. I don't just agree or disagree but it's from my family and my own personal experience to give this conclusion.
The people you enumerated to have been known to have a good future were the rich ones and they only account for a minority in the entire world population. The issue does not only happen in the United States but also in other countries like the Philippines for example. People in the United States may enjoy being the "other man or woman" just for the thrill of it and divorce is very rampant in the country anyway, but in the Philippines, it is a completely different story.
In poor countries, economic reasons drive the poor ones to get involved with married people because they thought they can have a future only to realize in the end that they gained nothing but shame and pain. I do not agree with you when you said cheaters cheat to complement what is lacking in the relationship.
The problem with people who cheat on their wives or husbands is that they do not know how to be contented except those who really experience physical abuse and the likes- my heart go out to those people. They cling to everything that is good? That is so greedy and selfish. All relationships are not perfect. And if a person cannot accept and work on that, then that person will sooner or later cheat on his or her other half. Cheating is one of the main causes of broken relationships and it does not only affect the couple but also the kids. A broken family creates a broken society.
In most instances relationships are of any status or circumstances generally don't last period. According to some statistics the divorce rate in the U. Although I agree with you that it's never a good idea to knowingly enter into an extra marital affair. However I have to disagree with you regarding a person not being able to have a "future" with the married person. There are countless famous couples who had affairs and went on to get married, have children, and so on.
Naturally there are many other famous and not famous people who have been "the other woman" or "other man" who went on to either marry the person they got involved with or establish a long-term relationship.
I personally know of a brother and sister whose spouses cheated on them and married! Of course one could argue that these couples are "the exception" but nevertheless married people have been known to leave their spouses for the "other woman" or "other man". Last but not least some women and men actually enjoy being "the other" and don't care what people think. We live in area where people openly join "cheating dating websites" and sign up for cheating apps. Even with that according to statistics the workplace is still the 1 place where cheating affairs begin.
Clearly co-workers know about each other's marital status. I've reached the conclusion that most cheaters are not looking to replace one relationship with another. Maybe he wooed you back. But it's been a while and he's still with her. And you have finally had enough. Make a decision to leave him for good. Tell him you want to meet him in a place you know is risky for him. If he agrees to meet in a risky place, try to show him affection and watch him pull away. Tell him outright that you've had enough. That you want out and that perhaps you love him but it's not enough anymore.
You've heard his promises for a very long time and he has never made good on them and you're done.
Even if he pleads and begs be firm and strong. You are leaving him, regardless of his reaction. Change your phone number, and do not program his in. One of the best ways to break up with a married man is totally and completely. No late night calls, no calls during the day when he's at work away from his wife and kids.
If he does not have your number and you don't program his in your phone, you'll be less likely to call him. And he won't be able to call you. Block him from your email, Facebook and Linkedin accounts, and so forth. You don't want any contact or reminders. So block him from everyplace you can think of. He needs to realize that you're done. This is just part of how you're showing him that. Tell him you'll contact his wife if he does not leave you alone.
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Usually the threat alone is enough for him to go away. And when he does, remind yourself of how easily he left and realize you will find someone much better out there sometime very soon. Go out and do things you love. And while you're out, flirt. Maybe you're not ready for another romance, but don't stay in bed crying. Get out there and connect with other people, and other men. Show yourself you are a sexy, attractive woman who will find someone much better very soon.
Pamper yourself. Take long bubble baths, wear lingerie just for yourself, because you deserve it. Reinforce the fact that you don't need a man, especially a married man, to show you and make you feel beautiful. Be ready to cut him off.
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Cut him off entirely. If you have nothing to do with him, you will move on faster. When you're ready, start dating.